British model Iskra Arabella Lawrence has a message for you on how to be happy in your marriage, relationship or personal life and the bottom line is that material things are no the source of true happiness.
In a long Instagram post, the mom of one wrote:
“I dreamt of love as a little girl, a Disney style fantasy which I learned through my 20’s was unrealistic and in turn held partners to unattainable standards.
When I lived in NY, I had friends who had a list of things they wanted in their husband. Many of which were physical and many of them were also materialistic.
I myself have unintentionally dated men who probably had a lot of those things on their lists “good catches” and I learnt that none of that matters.
But the number one thing I realized would bring me joy was having a best friend, a partner and a team mate for life.
I found that in you Philip Payne thank you. (Referring to her partner).
I also never realized the importance of your own transparency of how you feel, what you need and asking for help from your partner, Iskra continued.
The work you do with yourself is a direct impact on the work you do in a relationship, so when I’m not checking in with myself and knowing where I’m at how would I be able to communicate with my partner.
So I hope for any of you with a list or wondering when you’ll meet the perfect match, figure out who you are first and remember you’ve always got you!
You don’t need anyone to make you whole. Bringing someone into your life that uplifts you and fills you with joy and love is an addition.
I’ve felt more alone in a relationship than being single.
More insecure in a relationship than being single.
And definitely more bored and unfulfilled in a relationship than being single.
You already got all the love you need within yourself.
All the tools to be fulfilled, secure and happy within yourself.
And let me just finish off with this, anyone would be lucky to have you in their life. Never forget that.”
Lawrence confirmed her relationship with songwriter Philip Payne In January 2019. In November 2019, Lawrence announced that she was 17 weeks pregnant and expecting her and Payne’s first child together.
On April 16, 2020, she gave birth to her first child.
Philip Payne also praised Iskra in another Instagam post:
“Who would’ve thought I always look at you and think , God why me? How did I get this blessed, what on earth did I do to deserve this much happiness and favor? I’m entirely in awe at his grace.
So much has changed so fast in such a short amount of time and I’d be lying if I didn’t say it’s all been taking me for a spin lol so many emotions, excited, scared AF, vulnerable, questions, Do I have what it takes? Am I ready? How do I become the best dad?
Then I think about you and the way you look at me, the way you encourage me the way you lift me up when work is wearing on me, how you always tell me how proud and happy you are that I’m yours and how much you appreciate the human I am, flaws and all…even though I’m far from perfect, you love with such a pure unconditional love and that in itself gives me the confidence and courage to know without a shadow of a doubt I’m going be the best parent I can possibly be because I have the best partner I could possibly have.
You’re going to be an incredible mother Iskra and I’m going to give you and this little soul everything I have. “WE ARE GOING TO KILL IT!”
